So you want to be more like “that guy” or “that girl.”

You know who I’m talking about, that guy with ripped abs, ripped arms, ripped everything.

Or that girl that looks fabulous and confident and comfortable in her own skin. They’re probably into CrossFit, triathalons, and kale juice.
They can throw on a t-shirt or a pair of Lulu tights and look like a million bucks.
Oh, and they have 2 beautiful children.

You can find them on Instagram and Facebook by searching hashtags like #grateful #blessed #honored and #hardwork.
They probably have amazing careers and the perfect house.
They don’t make “uuf” sounds when they have to tie up their shoe laces.
They definitely don’t get bloated or have heartburn when they eat chili dogs and ice cream.
They have plenty of energy at the end of the day to still ride bikes and play with their kids.
They are the dream couple, they have it all and then some.
“I want to be more like them!”

Before you can become “that guy” or “that girl” you need to face the reality that their lives aren’t perfect.
Before they were “that guy” or “that girl” they were right where you are now.
Their lives were busier than ever with chores at home, stress at work, and no time to focus on themselves.

And life wasn’t slowing down anytime soon.

Social media will always have plenty of images of “living the good life” we all wish that we had, it makes it so easy to believe that “everyone else” is doing so much better than you are.

But you need to face the reality that everyone else is not losing weight or gaining muscle or getting fitter so much faster and effortlessly than you.

Everyone else doesn’t always have their shit together. Everyone else doesn’t have everything you don’t. You are not the only person in this world with problems, and it is not so much harder for you than anyone else.

The truth of the matter is, there is no everyone else…..

No one gets to escape the realities of family, deadlines at work, and the thermodynamic laws that control metabolism.

Everyone else doesn’t exist the way you think they do. We are all imperfect and struggling with everyday life the same as the next guy.

Jobs and kids and pets and clogged toilets, hang nails, alarm clocks, and an unyielding love for fresh baked chocolate chip cookies are all a part of everyone’s reality.
And none of it really gets any easier. But once we are honest with ourselves about what is going on in our lives and stop worrying about the fantastic life everyone is living that we can start becoming our own version of “that guy” or “that girl.”

Step 1 – Reconsider your expectations

The good news is that you can get into “Fitness Magazine Cover” shape, as in, it is physically possible for you to achieve this look.
But you need to consider whether you can realistically afford to make nutrition and fitness your number 1 priority above your partner, kids, job, and dessert.

Getting into “Fitness Magazine Cover” shape is intense and you have to give up a lot in your life to accomplish it.
Your entire life revolves around eating, working out, and sleeping.
This is generally reserved for people who get paid a lot to have that body, like actors and fitness models.

But even with all of that dedication, these people do not look like this all of the time, usually just for a day to have their pictures taken. Their lives are much less awesome than you think.

They just ate 3 ounces of cold chicken from a ziploc bag at last weekend’s family BBQ right before heading back to the gym for their second workout of the day.

This doesn’t mean that getting into shape isn’t worth it. In fact, getting into reasonably moderate shape isn’t all that complicated. With a handful of small and consistent changes in your life it is very attainable.

With an If It Fits Me coach guiding you step-by-step through what it takes based on you and your goals, it takes the guess work out of what you really need to be doing to get in the best shape of your life.

Step 2 – Find real life role models

Seeing someone on a magazine cover or in a Instagram post with the perfect bod is cool and all, but we don’t really know who they are, how they feel, or what their life is really like.
There are real life role models all around you if stop and look.

How about the co worker that sneaks off during lunch to workout or take a yoga class. Or the grandfather that always has energy to roll around on the floor with his grand kids. Or the neighbor that teaches the kids how to play baseball while still working a full time job.

Small opportunities of health and fitness are found everywhere. If you seize the opportunity you’ll be surprised at how quickly you start becoming “that guy” or “that girl.”

But even with all of that dedication, these people do not look like this all of the time, usually just for a day to have their pictures taken. Their lives are much less awesome than you think.

They just ate 3 ounces of cold chicken from a ziploc bag at last weekend’s family BBQ right before heading back to the gym for their second workout of the day.

This doesn’t mean that getting into shape isn’t worth it. In fact, getting into reasonably moderate shape isn’t all that complicated. With a handful of small and consistent changes in your life it is very attainable.

With an If It Fits Me coach guiding you step-by-step through what it takes based on you and your goals, it takes the guess work out of what you really need to be doing to get in the best shape of your life.

Step 3 – Becoming a fitness minimalist

Taking baby steps towards the bigger goal of becoming a healthy and active person is how everyone gets started.
Gotta learn to crawl before we walk.
If you don’t have time to go to the gym, don’t sweat it! Just do some push-ups, sit-ups, and air squats in the morning before heading to work.

How about a 10-15 minute walk during your lunch break? Maybe some wind sprints in the back yard while dinner is in the oven? Or a quick game of stand on daddy’s back while he tries to hold plank.

Do whatever you can whenever you can with what you can.
It’s that simple.

Grab a few fitness opportunities throughout the day and before you know it, you’ll be stepping up your fitness game.
Think you could be eating better?
Just pick one thing about the way you eat that you think you could improve and focus on it for a few weeks.
Want to drink one less alcoholic beverages per night? Do it.
Want to eat one salad a day? Start today.
Want to replace dessert with a healthier choice? Make it happen.
Pick just one thing to focus on and practice it each day and forget about everything else. Before you know it, you’ll have created a healthy habit. Then you can start a new one.

Step 4 – Get support while you figure it out

Fitness and health is a journey, not a destination.
It is not an all or nothing deal. If you can’t exercise or eat certain types of healthy foods, don’t let it be a reason to do nothing.
Figure it out or get the support that can help you.

Seriously

Do you ask for what you need? Does your pride get in the way? Don’t let it.
Figure out what kind of support you need, ask for it, then accept the help.

If you have a nagging pain in your knees, think about finding an alternative to your running routine.
Or ask a coach how an exercise can be modified.

Do you hate working out alone? Think about joining a local fitness group online or CrossFit gym (community is a key to fitness success).
Surround yourself with other like minded people.
Can’t seem to find the time to do what is important to you? Pull out a calendar and start making a plan.
Book appointments for “me time” with yourself. Set alarms and reminders on your phone to keep you accountable.
Everyone has to work at it, even “that guy” and “that girl.” Especially in the beginning.

People generally hate the feeling of exercise when they’re out of shape, its uncomfortable. People suck when they start a new sport. And no one back squats 300 pounds on the first try.

If you see someone that is good at something, there is a really good chance they asked for help along the way and used the help to get them where they are today.

We need to ask for help (and accept it). We need to embrace small improvements that add up over time. We need to move past the “all or nothing” attitude.

Step 5 – Really listen to your body

Sometimes we need more than a little help and we need to acknowledge it sooner than later.

If you are experiencing things like:

– Chronic insomnia or poor quality sleep
– Chronic pain or lack of mobility
– Frequent injuries or illness
– Debilitating depression, anxiety, or other mental health concerns
– Chronic social isolation and relationship difficulties
– Chronic lethargy and lack of energy
– Feeling like you need alcohol or recreational drugs to function

Sometimes having a debilitating gym injury, getting a scary medical diagnosis, or ending a relationship can be just the wake up call we need to start working on ourselves.

But you should get real with yourself for a second: Is fitness distracting you from a more serious problem that seems too heavy to think about?

If so, try talking to a doctor, trained coach, counselor, or other health care professional.

Step 6 – Embrace the struggle

The struggle is real and it always will be.

Tangling with pain, whether that is the actual pain and suffering, or just small daily annoyances, is all part of being a human being.

As an adult, we recognize the complexity of life. Everyone has a struggle, even “that guy” and “that girl,” you just might not see it on the outside.
I have coached quite a few people over the years and I can assure you that they all faced adversity and struggles to get where they want to be.

They have all juggled busy schedules filled with work stress, family matters, and other life responsibilities.

They all started where you are today and made a series of decisions to make the changes in their lives to start living the life they always imagined.

They sought help where it was needed and embraced every imperfect moment of the journey.

They made small changes one at a time and built a solid foundation of healthy habits.

Hell, that’s where I started and I still embrace the struggle everyday.

I am always battling with one nagging injury or the next.

I struggle with craving for sweet treats, pizza, beer, and ice cream as much as the next guy.

I have my moments of irrational emotional eating. I am not perfect by any stretch of the term.

So the next time you look at “that guy” or “that girl,” just remember they may be in the middle of a long and difficult journey.

You don’t know what it’s taken to get where they are today. We are all out here on planet earth just trying to do the best we can under the imperfect circumstances we were given.

Accepting your imperfections as a member of the human race is your first class ticket to becoming “that guy” or “that girl”

If you are at a place in your life where you feel like having the expertise of a health and nutrition coach on your side, email me at Joel@IfItFitsMe.com or visit www.ifitfitsme.com.

I have coached hundreds of people just like you to becoming the healthiest and happiest version of themselves through 1-on-1 guidance. My program is results-based and custom tailored to fit you and your goals.

Go forth and be better than yesterday, cheers to you and your journey!